ANOTHER YEAR, ANOTHER CHANCE
Guys, yesterday I woke up & celebrated another birthday.
Another year of life.
Another opportunity to make more memories, to make more mistakes and to hopefully turn complaints into motivation to check more off the goal list.
Yes, I now have more white hairs than I can count on two hands, wrinkles on my face from sleep deprivation, stress, laughing (and crying, like, ugly crying) with my loved ones, but it’s been a life I am so grateful for and one that I wouldn’t trade for the world.
It feels so strange to say I am 34. I am officially in the mid-30’s category, and I still feel far from doing whatever it is I was supposed to be doing when “I grew up”. Life has taken me on unplanned paths these past couple of years, but I know I am where I am meant to be, right now. I am humbled by the experiences I have had and by those around me who’s stories inspire me to continue to push forward.
Even though I wasn’t in the mood for celebrating anything last week, I was touched by all of the love from my family & friends. I spent the entire day feeling like a kid with my kids and husband at Disneyland, forgetting just for a moment that we are experiencing a time in America of great uncertainty. Seeing my boys’ little faces light up with excitement to see a beautiful celebration of diverse cultures at Disneyland’s California Adventure for example, was the best gift. They may be too young to keep yesterday’s activities in their long term memory vault, but days like yesterday was just what my soul needed and one I won’t ever forget. My life has been blessed tremendously by their lives, and I feel an even greater responsibility to set an example they can be proud of, and more importantly, ensure I do my part in raising them to be well-rounded, open-minded, open-hearted men in service for others.
Last night’s sky was also graced by a beautiful “supermoon”, and as NASA explains, this moon “will be the biggest and brightest supermoon to rise in almost 69 years” and that “the next one won’t come this close to Earth again until Nov. 25, 2034.” Life is too short and unpredictable to wonder if we will be around to witness this again, and many of us would have missed seeing it if we hadn’t just looked up.
Ironically enough my name is originally an epithet of the Greek goddess of the moon, Artemis, and before heading home, I looked up at the moon, tightly held my husband’s hand and at that moment, my heart felt fuller than it’s been in a while.
This morning I was reminded of an old list that had been shared by the World Observer of the “13 Ways to Be Happier”, and it served as an important reminder for me to focus my energy on things that I can be proud of and that allow me to live, love and be happy with the life that I want for myself and for my family. I’ll share the condensed list below, and hope that it reminds all of us to live the lives we can each be proud of (click here for the full article).
13 Ways To Be Happier
1. Let go of your complaining
“Tell the negativity committee that meets inside your head to sit down and shut up.” Martin Seligman
2. Let go of having to always be right.
Wayne Dyer wrote “Would I rather be right or would I rather be kind?” Think about that next time you find yourself fighting this habit!
3. Let go of any self defeating ideas
An entire sea of water can’t sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship. Similarly, the negativity of the world can’t put you down unless you allow it to get inside you – Goi Nasu
4. Let go of your fears
5. Let go of attachment
6. Let go of making criticism
7. Let go of blaming
8. Let go of trying to impress other people
9. Let go of your excuses
10. Let go of trying to always control
11. Let go of the past
12. Let go of resisting change
13. Let go of living life to other people’s expectations